Friday, July 30, 2010

God's Plan for a Joy-Filled Marriage

Last night Bobby and I drove down to Bayonne to meet with our priest.  We had to fill out a survey separately and get interviewed by the priest, basically so that he can get to know us better and have a better understanding of our relationship.  I was up first for the interview and it was your basic, you aren't already married, you're not being forced into this, you understand what a good catholic marriage means, yadda yadda yadda.  Then Deacon Bob asked about how Bobby and I met, how he proposed, why I want to marry him....easy peasy.


Then it was my turn to take the test.  It was about 120 questions....mainly about our finances once we are officially married, how our families feel about our marriage, and how we feel about each other.  Some of the questions were no brainers and others required a little more thinking...not because I was uncertain of how I felt, but because they were worded in such a way that you had to read the question multiple times before you knew what it was actually asking.  The test is pretty much an "agree", "disagree", or "uncertain".  Questions like "Pregnancy is currently affecting our marriage" and "Sometimes I am fearful of my future spouse" were easy DISAGREEs, but questions like "My future spouse and I expect little to no discontent in our marriage" made me go "hmm...."  If I answer AGREE then I'm saying that we think marriage is all fun and games which is not true but if I answer DISAGREE then it makes it sound like we are already unhappy most of the time....neither of which are true.


The kicker to the whole little survey/interview process is the fact that Bobby and I had to fill out the section about cohabitation.  We're planning on a Catholic ceremony and for those of you who are familiar with the Bible....we're breaking one of those Biblical laws by living together before marriage.  So Deacon Bob threw an idea out there....only for us to discuss and think about but no decision HAD to be made....to live apart for 6 months before our wedding.  Bobby and I have been living together for almost a year now and in the time we haven't spent a single night apart.  I don't think either of us would be able to get a decent night of sleep without the other laying there too.  So this is what we have to think about...can we manage being apart for that long or should we cut a deal of renewed chastity until the big day?

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

First Annual Grown Up Brunch

Sunday we had our first ever grown up brunch and everything was fantastic.  Unfortunately, I only took pictures at the very beginning....and by "I" I mean my friend Marissa because I was busy making a bajillion pancakes. So without further ado.....




I'd say it was quite the success though it was incredibly hot out...I'm thinking next time we'll have a brunch in May/September when it isn't balls hot out.  We managed to get everything inside before the rain hit later on in the day and everyone made their way down to the basement bar to hang out for a bit more.  I made 2 different breakfast stratas which I had 1) never eaten before and 2) never made.  They were both delicious but the Italian Sausage and Bell Pepper one was my favorite.  Thanks to all who came out and those who brought stuff.  Our next big party is our Halloween party October 22nd so mark your calendars!  I spent a while scouring the internet yesterday for half price decorations and was pretty successful....get excited!

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Beer for dinner?

Last night I decided to spice things up with a different marinade for our London Broil.  After scouring the internet for a new recipe I decided to incorporate the one ingredient that we love most (ok, next to garlic)...BEER!  I found a recipe for a beer marinade and read most of the reviews before making the trek downstairs to the beer fridge.
The recipe called for a stout so I looked around and saw one that Bobby had multiple bottles of....so I figured it was a safe place.  After trimming the little bit of fat and cutting the 2+lb of london broil in half I started to make the marinade.

  • 12 oz. Stout
  • 1 Tablespoon soy sauce
  • 1 Tablespoon Worcestershire
  • 3 Tablespoons brown sugar
  • 1 clove minced garlic
Once the meat was secure in the ziplock bag in the refrigerator, I went to see what Bobby was up to online at work.  I informed him of my delicious idea and he began to get wary....which bottle of stout did I pick?
Oh that would be the kind that cost $40ish for a 4-pack.  Needless to say, the steak came out terrific and I reduced the leftover marinade and we poured it over the top to make for an extra delicious meal.  Oops!

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Registry etiquette

I was having lunch with friends recently with the subject of registries came up (wedding, house warming, baby, etc).  They asked me how Bobby and I decided what went on our registry....well after reading plenty of magazines and blogs and checking out the forums it seemed like the way to go was to have 3 price points....this way everyone can contribute.  We also decided that if it was something we weren't willing to spend the money on, then it wouldn't go on (ok there is a $90 bowl that I put on our registry because it was really pretty though I would never spend that kind of money on a bowl).
Ok, so this picture doesn't make it look all that fantastic but it's beautiful with purples and grays.  I love it.


Anyway....it got me thinking about the type of people who put outlandish things on their registries and how I'm very happy that the man I'm going to marry has a good head on his shoulders and doesn't want to buy $80 shower curtains.

Monday, July 12, 2010

Slacker McSlackyson

So I realized that I never actually write about all of the super fun beer related things that we do.  What's living hoppily ever after without the hops?!?!

A couple of months ago Bobby convinced me to check out the Copper Mine Pub in North Arlington for a beer release party.  Having never been to a beer release party, I was pretty excited to check it out.  It was the launch for NJ Beer Co and they had a very tasty Pale Ale in a cask!  Oooo a cask!  While we were there, Bobby met the owners and chatted them up about how they got started (running/owning a brewery is his life goal).  From this, he developed a friendship with the guys and spent a couple of Fridays helping them out at the brewery.



Well, they recently got their bottling machine and decided to have a bunch of people over to the brewery for some free labor with the promise of all the beer you could drink...why not?  We met some great people from the metro area who are just as into beer as we are and were put to work.

Bobby and I ended up spending the entire day there and went home dirty and exhausted.  We assembled 150 boxes and 600 six pack holders, cleaned kegs and refilled them with yummy stout, and played a couple of rounds of beer pong.  Overall, I'd say it was a pretty great time and we're looking forward to other fun stuff at the brewery.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Ahhh the beauty of homeownership

While, yes, Bobby and I are technically living in sin.....moving in together was one of the best ideas we've had.  Almost a year ago, Bobby bought the house we currently live in and after spending every night of the first two weeks here helping out (we had to tear down wallpaper and move in furniture and lots of other projects), we decided it made more sense for this to be my permanent address.  Sure we get into little tiffs about stupid house things (I'm notorious for leaving a glass of water on the coffee table and then going upstairs to bed and he has a bad habit of leaving dishes in the sink when the dishwasher is empty) but we dished out the duties to make living together work and it does :)





One of the things that I've come to learn is that it's extremely helpful to go through home crisis together.  Only a month after living together, we took a trip to Governors Island for my birthday.  Right before we hit the road, I went to the bathroom in the upstairs hallway....apparently the tank to the toilet had cracked and never refilled properly once I flushed.   Bobby and I got home several hours later and discovered a new waterfall in our living room.


Naturally this leak had to occur on the day of my birthday party....we had a lot of cleaning up to do before people came over....we've had several other problems turn up but another major one hit this morning.  During the school year Bobby has another hour after I leave the house before he has to be at work but because it's summer...it's the other way around.  He leaves for work at 8am and I start my trek at 9.  This morning I decided to make myself a cup of tea using the insta-hot (a knob on our sink that's attached to a water tank underneath that boils small amounts of water quickly).  Unfortunately the insta-hot hasn't been working properly so I gave up and popped the mug in the microwave while I sat in the living room eating a bowl of cereal and reading the paper.  When I went to put my dish in the dishwasher,I  was greeted by large puddles of water on the kitchen floor....i had 15 minutes until I needed to leave for school.  Thankfully Bobby was able to come up from work and help me clean/fix the insta-hot before I needed to leave but it seems that just when everything is working properly and it's smooth sailing, something else has to break and cause a headache.

Ah the beauty of homeownership.